Hardly any other wedding wish is viewed as sensitively as the topic of monetary gifts for weddings. Many couples today consciously decide to give money as a wedding gift. Be it for a trip together, the expansion of their new home or as a symbolic foundation for their life together. Guests are often faced with the question: How much is appropriate? How can money be given without it seeming impersonal? And how do you communicate such a wish without raising expectations or offending people? At modern, bi-cultural or multi-cultural weddings, different traditions and ideas come together. In some cultures, the gift of money at a wedding has been part of good manners for generations. In others, it seems pragmatic or even unromantic. But times are changing. Today, giving money as a wedding gift is no longer just about handing over an envelope. It is much more about appreciation, individuality and the conscious sharing of future plans.
Reinweiss Hochzeiten accompanies couples with sensitivity. The aim is to reconcile modern wishes such as monetary wedding gifts with family expectations and cultural influences. With many years of experience in planning exclusive, intercultural weddings and a keen understanding of social and emotional dynamics, solutions are created. These solutions are not only stylish and elegant – but above all authentic.
Wishing money gifts in an elegant way
At a time when many couples are already living together and consciously reducing their material wishes, the challenge lies in formulating this wish in a personal and charming way. Sensitive language in the invitation can work wonders. Phrases such as “Your coming is the best gift. If you are still thinking of a gift, we would be delighted to receive a contribution towards our shared dream” not only shows gratitude, but also makes the wish appear sympathetic and unobtrusive.
It is particularly nice when guests can see what their contribution is for – for example, a trip, a garden or a project close to their heart. This can be communicated in style on a wedding website, through a small insert or even with a beautifully designed QR code. In the case of intercultural weddings, it is also advisable to coordinate the wish for monetary gifts for the wedding with the family so that it is passed on with sensitivity. Because, as is so often the case, it’s not the what, but the how that makes the difference – even when giving gifts.
Gifts of money worldwide: tradition, symbolism, change
Turkey: between pride, honor and family ties
In many cultures, giving money as a wedding gift is deeply rooted. It stands for happiness, prosperity and support for the couple as they embark on a new chapter in their lives. The way it is presented reflects cultural values and symbolic meanings – sometimes loud and boisterous, sometimes discreet and respectful.
Gifts of money have a long tradition in Turkish wedding culture. They are not only seen as practical support, but also as a symbolic act of family belonging. This is particularly evident in the so-called takı töreni – the ceremonial “decorating ritual”. Here, guests step in front of the bride and groom individually and attach banknotes or gold coins (Çeyrek Altın, Tam Altın) directly to their clothes with pins – a proud, public act of solidarity.
The closer the relationship with the bride and groom, the more generous the gift. In addition, a record is often kept to keep track of giving and giving back over generations. Today, modern couples increasingly prefer more restrained forms – such as individually designed money boxes or elegant envelopes. Reinweiss Hochzeiten offers creative concepts that honor tradition and combine modern aesthetics.
Arab countries: generosity as a gesture of love and honor
In many Arab countries – from the Gulf States to Lebanon and Morocco – the wedding is a major social event. Gifts of money at a wedding symbolize generosity, honour and the wish for a blessed life together. The mahr (dowry) is just as much a part of this as generous contributions from guests.
At many celebrations, banknotes are combined with floral arrangements, gold jewelry or fine fragrances. A particularly impressive ritual is the “Zaghareet” – a cry of joy from the women, which is often accompanied by money that is rhythmically “rained” on the bride and groom. Here too, the emotional value outweighs the material value. Reinweiss Hochzeiten supports Arab-European couples in stylishly translating this wealth of symbolism into modern concepts.
Balkans: community, pride and lavish celebrations
In countries such as Serbia, Bosnia, Croatia and Albania, gifts of money are a central element of the wedding celebration. The so-called “money dance” is particularly well-known, in which the bride and groom dance while guests stick banknotes on their foreheads, tuck them into their clothes or scatter them on the floor – exuberant joy meets deep cordiality here.
Godparents, such as the Kum (best man or godfather), often present particularly generous amounts – a sign of special honor. Today, modern couples combine folkloristic elements with stylish details, such as a decorative gift table or elegant boxes. Reinweiss Hochzeiten The company implements these ideas individually – always with a sense of cultural authenticity.
Africa: joy, spirituality and living community
The variety of wedding rituals on the African continent is enormous. In West Africa – for example in Nigeria or Ghana – money is sprinkled on the dancing couple during the Money Spraying Dance. It brings joy, blessings and symbolizes that the couple may be surrounded by prosperity.
In South Africa, on the other hand, decorative envelopes or lovingly designed gift boxes dominate. In rural regions, gifts in kind or gifts organized by the community also play a role. What all variations have in common is that the gift of money as a wedding present is an expression of a deep bond. Reinweiss Hochzeiten helps African-European couples to integrate this diversity respectfully and creatively into their celebration.
Asia: symbolism and aesthetics
In China, money is traditionally handed over in a red envelope – the Hongbao. The color stands for luck, and the amounts of money should be odd, as they are considered lucky numbers. The number 4 is avoided as it is phonetically similar to the word for “death”.
In Japan, artistically designed envelopes(shūgi-bukuro) with decorative cords are used. Odd amounts are also common here – as a symbol of the indivisibility of the connection. Both combine style, symbolism and respect.
Germany: Creativity and individuality
Money gifts for weddings are also widespread in Germany – but often with a creative twist. Homemade money boxes, dioramas or symbolically wrapped banknotes are popular. Many couples include a note in their invitation about the money they would like to give – discreetly, charmingly and with a wink.
Digital solutions and modern trends
Thanks to digitalization, new possibilities are opening up: Online wish lists, honeymoon finds or QR codes in the invitation enable a discreet, targeted way of giving – without losing the emotional meaning.
Wedding gifts are much more than just a financial gift – they are an expression of appreciation, love and cultural identity. The variety of customs around the world shows that there is no “right” way – but there are many loving, personal options.
Reinweiss Hochzeiten accompanies couples in realizing these wishes in a stylish, respectful and creative way. With a feel for cultural nuances and an international network, we create unforgettable moments in which tradition and modernity merge harmoniously.
If you are unsure how to formulate your gift wishes elegantly, you are welcome to request a free initial consultation
